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作者 | 李月亮
有些事，努力一把才知道成绩，奋斗一下才知道自己的潜能。花淡故雅，水淡故真，人淡故纯。做人需淡，淡而久香。不争、不谄、不艳、不俗。淡中真滋味，淡中有真香。心若无恙，奈我何其；人若不恋，奈你何伤。痛苦缘于比较，烦恼缘于心。淡定，故不伤；淡然，故不恼。欲望是壶里沸腾的水，人心是杯子里的茶，水因为火的热量而沸腾，心因为杯体的清凉而不惊。当欲望遇凉，沉淀于心，便不烦，不恼。不要嘲笑他人的努力，不要轻视他人的成绩。每个人的价值不同，无需对任何人不屑。在你眼中的无用价值，未必真的无用。不轻一人，不废一物。活不是战场，无需一较高下。人与人之间，多一份理解就会少一些误会；心与心之间，多一份包容，就会少一些纷争。不要以自己的眼光和认知去评论一个人，判断一件事的对错。不要苛求别人的观点与你相同，不要期望别人能完全理解你，每个人都有自己的性格和观点。人往往把自己看得过重才会患得患失，觉得别人必须理解自己。其实，人要看轻自己，少一些自我，多一些换位，才能心生快乐。所谓心有多大，快乐就有多少；包容越多，得到越多。而光脑，则是梅克斯博士在研究矩阵模拟系统程序的时候，意外发现灵能晶石的特异之处，不同于光电等任何物质和能量，灵能晶石蕴含的能源本质类似于精神这种虚无飘渺的东西。
命一场， 或喜或悲，都是一次洗礼，一次岁月的历练；或浓或淡，都是一抹绽放，一抹美丽的风景。春风得意时，不必张扬骄傲， 淡定从容一些，没有人能永远一帆风顺。一切得与失、隐与显，无非风景与风情。淡看世事，静对春花秋月，即使遭受别人的不看好和挤兑，不必辩解讨好，云淡风轻一笑，用时间来证明自己。何必追慕名车香宴，我只需清茶淡饭，爱相随，情也真。该来的自然来，会走的留不住。不违心，不刻意，不必太在乎，放开执念，随缘是最好的生活。不管这世上会有多少寒凉，依旧会有不一样的烟火。遇山过山，遇雨撑伞，有桥桥渡，无桥自渡，淡若清风，含笑走过。人世喧嚣，名利来往，放下浮躁，心静自安。淡淡的岁月，淡淡的心。人生的味道，淡久生香，安之若素，人淡如菊。淡淡地做人，淡淡地生活，淡淡的日子，每天都散发着淡淡的芳香。在某种程度上来说，机甲就是驾驶者，驾驶者就是机甲。而光脑的运算能力，也足够负担机甲运行时所需要的全部运算。
但由于灵能的特质，导致机甲对驾驶者的精神强度要求较高。同时也出现了驾驶机甲的精神强度和精神契合度的问题。精神契合度是天生的，也是几乎恒定的，契合度越高，那么驾驶者与机甲的协调度也就越高。机甲的动作也更快更精准，更接近驾驶者使用自己肉.体的层次。世上最酸的感觉不是吃醋，而是无权吃醋。吃醋也要讲名份，和他相爱的是另一个人，他的醋也就轮不到你吃，自有另一个人光明正大地吃醋。原来，吃不到的醋才是最酸的。最难过的，莫过于当你遇上一个特别的人，却明白永远不可能在一起，或迟或早，你不得不放弃。曾经以为，伤心是会流很多眼泪的，原来，真正的伤心，是流不出一滴眼泪。什么事情都会过去，我们是这样活过来的。
一切都像刚睡醒的样子，欣欣然张开了眼。山朗润起来了，水涨起来了，太阳的脸红起来了。小草偷偷地从土里钻出来，嫩嫩的，绿绿的。园子里，田野里，瞧去，一大片一大片满是的。坐着，躺着，打两个滚，踢几脚球，赛几趟跑，捉几回迷藏。风轻悄悄的，草软绵绵的。桃树、杏树、梨树，你不让我，我不让你，都开满了花赶趟儿。红的像火，粉的像霞，白的像雪。花里带着甜味儿；闭了眼，树上仿佛已经满是桃儿、杏儿、梨儿。花下成千成百的蜜蜂嗡嗡地闹着，大小的蝴蝶飞来飞去。野花遍地是：杂样儿，有名字的，没名字的，散在草丛里，像眼睛，像星星，还眨呀眨的。“吹面不寒杨柳风”，不错的，像母亲的手抚摸着你。风里带来些新翻的泥土的气息，混着青草味儿，还有各种花的香，都在微微润湿的空气里酝酿。鸟儿将巢安在繁花嫩叶当中，高兴起来了，呼朋引伴地卖弄清脆的喉咙，唱出宛转的曲子，与轻风流水应和着。牛背上牧童的短笛，这时候也成天嘹亮地响着。雨是最寻常的，一下就是三两天。可别恼。看，像牛毛，像花针，像细丝，密密地斜织着，人家屋顶上全笼着一层薄烟。树叶儿却绿得发亮，小草儿也青得逼你的眼。傍晚时候，上灯了，一点点黄晕的光，烘托出一片安静而和平的夜。在乡下，小路上，石桥边，有撑起伞慢慢走着的人，地里还有工作的农民，披着蓑戴着笠。他们的房屋，稀稀疏疏的在雨里静默着。天上风筝渐渐多了，地上孩子也多了。城里乡下，家家户户，老老小小，也赶趟儿似的，一个个都出来了。舒活舒活筋骨，抖擞抖擞精神，各做各的一份事去。“一年之计在于春”，刚起头儿，有的是工夫，有的是希望。春天像刚落地的娃娃，从头到脚都是新的，它生长着。春天像小姑娘，花枝招展的，笑着，走着。春天像健壮的青年，有铁一般的胳膊和腰脚，领着我们上前去。精神强度到达一定程度后可以提高驾驶者与机甲的契合度1%—5%，但也仅止于此。 往日时光，有那么一种情结，经年难解，有那么一件事，想做却没有勇气做，有那么一个人，自己没有笃定的意念追随。历历种种，都成为今天时而感叹的源由。然而，当机会摆在面前，依然会顾虑重重。当那个深恋过的人再次遇见，却一样没有勇气做什么！沧海桑田的变幻，并不是一句：物是人非，可以解释的了的！时过境迁的无奈，也不是一句：此情可待成追忆，能够诠释的心境！或许，留在光阴深处的，总是最珍贵，念念不忘的，总是最美好吧！我们时常在别人的故事里，一遍遍温习着自己曾经的心境，而所有有关年轻的记忆，都带着迷人的醉意。茫茫大地的影子，似流光拉长的叹息，路旁夭折的情意，洒泪，为祭。太多想做的事、想见的人，没有固执到底，都丢在了旧年的风里；记下那人最初的样子，坚持着最真的自己。不言不语，将一扇往事的门，轻轻关上。人生中经过的每个人，或温暖，或凉薄，都感恩于一场交集的缘分。留一抹绿意在心底，回眸，一个纯粹的微笑，便是一朵盛大的春天。做个不算糊涂的人，明了一些善意的委婉，也会发现流动风景的美丽。时间是一切生命哲学的定理，羁绊与遗憾都将散落尘埃。从未预约的前程，永恒着心上的希望与光明。有生之年，不贪求事事皆如人意，不奢念所有想要的都得以圆满，只希望，生命中的每分每秒，都不曾浪费便好。每一天醒来，做着自己该做且喜欢做的事，每一段空闲，陪着自己该陪且珍爱的人；拈花惹草的心情，侍奉一些爱好情趣，品茶捧书的雅致，供养心灵与思想，如此，便不辜负命运优渥相待的静好时光。光阴旧，覆水难收，再回首，敬往事一杯酒，说好，永不回头。向前走，穿过一段岁月的风烟迷雾，走到山清水秀……
Education rejuvenates the country, or science and technology rejuvenates the country, or education rejuvenates the country, or education rejuvenates the country with talented people and so>
However, what is Chinas education like? I am not an expert or scholar. Of course, the purpose of this article is not to discuss the whole picture of education. I just want to make a small comparison between Chinese and western education and look for the clue of rejuvenating the country.
There are many characteristics and differences between Chinese and western education, of course, there are also some similarities or differences, because education, after all, starts with children and must have some commonalities. However, the differences between Chinese and western education are still major. Perhaps the most striking>
Chinas education attaches importance to rationality and even propriety, while western education attaches importance to individuality and even to nature, so the gap arises. I describe it as " goat sex education" for Chinese education, and " wolf sex education" for western education ( wolf sex culture seems to be very fashionable in enterprise construction in recent years ). Although this analogy is not appropriate and I do not appreciate it, lets use it as a vivid bridge to understand the problem. Because of the characteristics of sheep and wolf, the relationship between sheep and wolf is too simple and clear, so there is no need to say more. Just think about the story of Wolf and Lamb, which has been deeply rooted in peoples hearts since childhood.
Why is it said that Chinese education is like " sheeps nature" because the Chinese people have been deeply educated, nurtured and influenced by traditional Confucian culture since childhood. They speak of benevolence, righteousness, propriety, wisdom and faith, cultivate>
However, western education seems to be " wolf - like" because it emphasizes more>
People who grew up under this kind of " goat sex" education did not see much difference during the civil war. Even sheep became wolves. However,>
Having experienced too many war lessons instead of book education, the Chinese have awakened and can neither be wolves nor sheep. If the Chinese want to be dragons, they can be said to be " gods" that no animal can defeat. It is neither as ferocious as a wolf nor as submissive as a sheep. It is free to fly into the sea and is superior to the others. Flying apsaras can soar and swim into the sea, becoming the>
However, the strange phenomenon is that education in China is " goat - like", but it is>
In fact, Chinese education is far from simple " goat sex" education. Starting from " sage Confucius", for more than 2,000 years, Chinese education can be said to be rich and profound, absolutely no worse than western education, and even much higher. All western education concepts are not uncommon in the education system of our ancestors. Otherwise, how can so many " magnificent" national heroes be cultivated, and how can so many " better - than - strolling" outstanding Chinese children be born? It is because our descendants cannot thoroughly study the education methods and ideological essence of our ancestors, and the methods are improper. It can even be said that our education is the result of a serious mistake of " imitating others from the east". We want to learn from the west but have not learned the essence. On the contrary, we have lost our own excellent things. Neither fish nor fowl is often hysterical. We have turned good children into " four different images" of China, the west and the east. This is the biggest failure and the biggest sorrow. Fortunately, many people of insight have gradually come to their senses and are returning to the right path bit by bit.
In fact, both Chinese - style education and western-style education have both advantages and disadvantages, with both advantages and disadvantages. The wisest educator should learn from each others strong points to make up for deficiencies and eliminate disadvantages. Such education is a great blessing for children and a great blessing for the future.
This raises a serious question: what is the most important thing in national education and what is the most important thing in master consciousness education, that is, to be a good master instead of waiting to be a slave. Then there is history education ( another article ). If you don know and remember the history of the motherland, the tragedy will be repeated again and again. Culture, knowledge, science, technology and so>
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That year, I was sitting behind your bicycle with the wind blowing in my ear, detailing your promise to me. I smiled and slept>
In early summer, your smile is like tearing sunshine, dazzling and dazzling. In your angelic face, I lost my sight. The gardenia behind me melted your pure white shirt into that piece of Xue Hai. You took off a gardenia and handed it to me. I dare not stretch out my hand to pick it up. You smiled and said, nice to meet you. From now>
Your words and the fragrance of gardenia spread around. I looked up and saw your eyes, bright and warm. At that moment, I felt the fall.
From then>
You know what? When you rescued me from that group of people who were carried away by jealousy; When you walked the long mountain road behind my back; When you fetch water for me and give me gifts; When you let me sit behind your bicycle, which will never carry people. These are great happiness that I still cannot believe.
One day, I asked you why you knew me at the beginning. You said that when I first saw you, I wanted to protect you. I raised my mouth and smiled proudly.
When gardenias bloom again, you sing under the tree with gentle and sad voice. For the first time in your eyes, I saw something other than happiness. I know, your song is for a girl, thats not me.
Gardenias were unbridled and defeated behind me. You didn see the dim look in my eyes.
The seasons are dry and the flowers bloom in spring.
You are still singing affectionate songs, and I am still the wrong listener.
We jointly deduce a story that is not a story.
When the last gardenia withered that year, you suddenly asked me what you would do if I left. I said, I will wait for you to come back.
You smiled, the smile was full of heavy mist.
You put your hand>
I saw the determination in your eyes.
I know, everything has been irreparable.
Soon after, you left. With your sadness, I went to the place in my dream, the world I will never reach.
At the airport, your white shirt still looks good. The black backpack is hung>
You smiled again, a sunny smile. Eyes, too deep to see bottom.
But I can clearly see that there is a reflection of my face, desolate and beautiful.
You said to me with pity and worry, girl, you know, don wait for me. I shook my head desperately, tears trickling down.
You wiped my tears and said, girl, be happy, be happy. This is my last blessing to you, be obedient!
Say that finish, you also don back to go. I heard the sound of my heart being torn apart. The great pain could not be relieved. I cried for a long time and shed tears from now>
You just disappeared from my world, you made all my beautiful dreams break like glass. I am crazy about your news, but no>
You came to me in summer and left in summer. Just like the wind, it passed and disappeared.
But I can go back to the origin.
I don remember how many times gardenias opened after you left. I don know which>
And the girl waiting for her lover to return under the tree.
有些事，努力一把才知道成绩，奋斗一下才知道自己的潜能。花淡故雅，水淡故真，人淡故纯。做人需淡，淡而久香。不争、不谄、不艳、不俗。淡中真滋味，淡中有真香。心若无恙，奈我何其；人若不恋，奈你何伤。痛苦缘于比较，烦恼缘于心。淡定，故不伤；淡然，故不恼。欲望是壶里沸腾的水，人心是杯子里的茶，水因为火的热量而沸腾，心因为杯体的清凉而不惊。当欲望遇凉，沉淀于心，便不烦，不恼。不要嘲笑他人的努力，不要轻视他人的成绩。每个人的价值不同，无需对任何人不屑。在你眼中的无用价值，未必真的无用。不轻一人，不废一物。活不是战场，无需一较高下。人与人之间，多一份理解就会少一些误会；心与心之间，多一份包容，就会少一些纷争。不要以自己的眼光和认知去评论一个人，判断一件事的对错。不要苛求别人的观点与你相同，不要期望别人能完全理解你，每个人都有自己的性格和观点。人往往把自己看得过重才会患得患失，觉得别人必须理解自己。其实，人要看轻自己，少一些自我，多一些换位，才能心生快乐。所谓心有多大，快乐就有多少；包容越多，得到越多。而光脑，则是梅克斯博士在研究矩阵模拟系统程序的时候，意外发现灵能晶石的特异之处，不同于光电等任何物质和能量，灵能晶石蕴含的能源本质类似于精神这种虚无飘渺的东西。
命一场， 或喜或悲，都是一次洗礼，一次岁月的历练；或浓或淡，都是一抹绽放，一抹美丽的风景。春风得意时，不必张扬骄傲， 淡定从容一些，没有人能永远一帆风顺。一切得与失、隐与显，无非风景与风情。淡看世事，静对春花秋月，即使遭受别人的不看好和挤兑，不必辩解讨好，云淡风轻一笑，用时间来证明自己。何必追慕名车香宴，我只需清茶淡饭，爱相随，情也真。该来的自然来，会走的留不住。不违心，不刻意，不必太在乎，放开执念，随缘是最好的生活。不管这世上会有多少寒凉，依旧会有不一样的烟火。遇山过山，遇雨撑伞，有桥桥渡，无桥自渡，淡若清风，含笑走过。人世喧嚣，名利来往，放下浮躁，心静自安。淡淡的岁月，淡淡的心。人生的味道，淡久生香，安之若素，人淡如菊。淡淡地做人，淡淡地生活，淡淡的日子，每天都散发着淡淡的芳香。在某种程度上来说，机甲就是驾驶者，驾驶者就是机甲。而光脑的运算能力，也足够负担机甲运行时所需要的全部运算。
但由于灵能的特质，导致机甲对驾驶者的精神强度要求较高。同时也出现了驾驶机甲的精神强度和精神契合度的问题。精神契合度是天生的，也是几乎恒定的，契合度越高，那么驾驶者与机甲的协调度也就越高。机甲的动作也更快更精准，更接近驾驶者使用自己肉.体的层次。世上最酸的感觉不是吃醋，而是无权吃醋。吃醋也要讲名份，和他相爱的是另一个人，他的醋也就轮不到你吃，自有另一个人光明正大地吃醋。原来，吃不到的醋才是最酸的。最难过的，莫过于当你遇上一个特别的人，却明白永远不可能在一起，或迟或早，你不得不放弃。曾经以为，伤心是会流很多眼泪的，原来，真正的伤心，是流不出一滴眼泪。什么事情都会过去，我们是这样活过来的。
一切都像刚睡醒的样子，欣欣然张开了眼。山朗润起来了，水涨起来了，太阳的脸红起来了。小草偷偷地从土里钻出来，嫩嫩的，绿绿的。园子里，田野里，瞧去，一大片一大片满是的。坐着，躺着，打两个滚，踢几脚球，赛几趟跑，捉几回迷藏。风轻悄悄的，草软绵绵的。桃树、杏树、梨树，你不让我，我不让你，都开满了花赶趟儿。红的像火，粉的像霞，白的像雪。花里带着甜味儿；闭了眼，树上仿佛已经满是桃儿、杏儿、梨儿。花下成千成百的蜜蜂嗡嗡地闹着，大小的蝴蝶飞来飞去。野花遍地是：杂样儿，有名字的，没名字的，散在草丛里，像眼睛，像星星，还眨呀眨的。“吹面不寒杨柳风”，不错的，像母亲的手抚摸着你。风里带来些新翻的泥土的气息，混着青草味儿，还有各种花的香，都在微微润湿的空气里酝酿。鸟儿将巢安在繁花嫩叶当中，高兴起来了，呼朋引伴地卖弄清脆的喉咙，唱出宛转的曲子，与轻风流水应和着。牛背上牧童的短笛，这时候也成天嘹亮地响着。雨是最寻常的，一下就是三两天。可别恼。看，像牛毛，像花针，像细丝，密密地斜织着，人家屋顶上全笼着一层薄烟。树叶儿却绿得发亮，小草儿也青得逼你的眼。傍晚时候，上灯了，一点点黄晕的光，烘托出一片安静而和平的夜。在乡下，小路上，石桥边，有撑起伞慢慢走着的人，地里还有工作的农民，披着蓑戴着笠。他们的房屋，稀稀疏疏的在雨里静默着。天上风筝渐渐多了，地上孩子也多了。城里乡下，家家户户，老老小小，也赶趟儿似的，一个个都出来了。舒活舒活筋骨，抖擞抖擞精神，各做各的一份事去。“一年之计在于春”，刚起头儿，有的是工夫，有的是希望。春天像刚落地的娃娃，从头到脚都是新的，它生长着。春天像小姑娘，花枝招展的，笑着，走着。春天像健壮的青年，有铁一般的胳膊和腰脚，领着我们上前去。精神强度到达一定程度后可以提高驾驶者与机甲的契合度1%—5%，但也仅止于此。 往日时光，有那么一种情结，经年难解，有那么一件事，想做却没有勇气做，有那么一个人，自己没有笃定的意念追随。历历种种，都成为今天时而感叹的源由。然而，当机会摆在面前，依然会顾虑重重。当那个深恋过的人再次遇见，却一样没有勇气做什么！沧海桑田的变幻，并不是一句：物是人非，可以解释的了的！时过境迁的无奈，也不是一句：此情可待成追忆，能够诠释的心境！或许，留在光阴深处的，总是最珍贵，念念不忘的，总是最美好吧！我们时常在别人的故事里，一遍遍温习着自己曾经的心境，而所有有关年轻的记忆，都带着迷人的醉意。茫茫大地的影子，似流光拉长的叹息，路旁夭折的情意，洒泪，为祭。太多想做的事、想见的人，没有固执到底，都丢在了旧年的风里；记下那人最初的样子，坚持着最真的自己。不言不语，将一扇往事的门，轻轻关上。人生中经过的每个人，或温暖，或凉薄，都感恩于一场交集的缘分。留一抹绿意在心底，回眸，一个纯粹的微笑，便是一朵盛大的春天。做个不算糊涂的人，明了一些善意的委婉，也会发现流动风景的美丽。时间是一切生命哲学的定理，羁绊与遗憾都将散落尘埃。从未预约的前程，永恒着心上的希望与光明。有生之年，不贪求事事皆如人意，不奢念所有想要的都得以圆满，只希望，生命中的每分每秒，都不曾浪费便好。每一天醒来，做着自己该做且喜欢做的事，每一段空闲，陪着自己该陪且珍爱的人；拈花惹草的心情，侍奉一些爱好情趣，品茶捧书的雅致，供养心灵与思想，如此，便不辜负命运优渥相待的静好时光。光阴旧，覆水难收，再回首，敬往事一杯酒，说好，永不回头。向前走，穿过一段岁月的风烟迷雾，走到山清水秀……
Education rejuvenates the country, or science and technology rejuvenates the country, or education rejuvenates the country, or education rejuvenates the country with talented people and so>
However, what is Chinas education like? I am not an expert or scholar. Of course, the purpose of this article is not to discuss the whole picture of education. I just want to make a small comparison between Chinese and western education and look for the clue of rejuvenating the country.
There are many characteristics and differences between Chinese and western education, of course, there are also some similarities or differences, because education, after all, starts with children and must have some commonalities. However, the differences between Chinese and western education are still major. Perhaps the most striking>
Chinas education attaches importance to rationality and even propriety, while western education attaches importance to individuality and even to nature, so the gap arises. I describe it as " goat sex education" for Chinese education, and " wolf sex education" for western education ( wolf sex culture seems to be very fashionable in enterprise construction in recent years ). Although this analogy is not appropriate and I do not appreciate it, lets use it as a vivid bridge to understand the problem. Because of the characteristics of sheep and wolf, the relationship between sheep and wolf is too simple and clear, so there is no need to say more. Just think about the story of Wolf and Lamb, which has been deeply rooted in peoples hearts since childhood.
Why is it said that Chinese education is like " sheeps nature" because the Chinese people have been deeply educated, nurtured and influenced by traditional Confucian culture since childhood. They speak of benevolence, righteousness, propriety, wisdom and faith, cultivate>
However, western education seems to be " wolf - like" because it emphasizes more>
People who grew up under this kind of " goat sex" education did not see much difference during the civil war. Even sheep became wolves. However,>
Having experienced too many war lessons instead of book education, the Chinese have awakened and can neither be wolves nor sheep. If the Chinese want to be dragons, they can be said to be " gods" that no animal can defeat. It is neither as ferocious as a wolf nor as submissive as a sheep. It is free to fly into the sea and is superior to the others. Flying apsaras can soar and swim into the sea, becoming the>
However, the strange phenomenon is that education in China is " goat - like", but it is>
In fact, Chinese education is far from simple " goat sex" education. Starting from " sage Confucius", for more than 2,000 years, Chinese education can be said to be rich and profound, absolutely no worse than western education, and even much higher. All western education concepts are not uncommon in the education system of our ancestors. Otherwise, how can so many " magnificent" national heroes be cultivated, and how can so many " better - than - strolling" outstanding Chinese children be born? It is because our descendants cannot thoroughly study the education methods and ideological essence of our ancestors, and the methods are improper. It can even be said that our education is the result of a serious mistake of " imitating others from the east". We want to learn from the west but have not learned the essence. On the contrary, we have lost our own excellent things. Neither fish nor fowl is often hysterical. We have turned good children into " four different images" of China, the west and the east. This is the biggest failure and the biggest sorrow. Fortunately, many people of insight have gradually come to their senses and are returning to the right path bit by bit.
In fact, both Chinese - style education and western-style education have both advantages and disadvantages, with both advantages and disadvantages. The wisest educator should learn from each others strong points to make up for deficiencies and eliminate disadvantages. Such education is a great blessing for children and a great blessing for the future.
This raises a serious question: what is the most important thing in national education and what is the most important thing in master consciousness education, that is, to be a good master instead of waiting to be a slave. Then there is history education ( another article ). If you don know and remember the history of the motherland, the tragedy will be repeated again and again. Culture, knowledge, science, technology and so>
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That year, I was sitting behind your bicycle with the wind blowing in my ear, detailing your promise to me. I smiled and slept>
In early summer, your smile is like tearing sunshine, dazzling and dazzling. In your angelic face, I lost my sight. The gardenia behind me melted your pure white shirt into that piece of Xue Hai. You took off a gardenia and handed it to me. I dare not stretch out my hand to pick it up. You smiled and said, nice to meet you. From now>
Your words and the fragrance of gardenia spread around. I looked up and saw your eyes, bright and warm. At that moment, I felt the fall.
From then>
You know what? When you rescued me from that group of people who were carried away by jealousy; When you walked the long mountain road behind my back; When you fetch water for me and give me gifts; When you let me sit behind your bicycle, which will never carry people. These are great happiness that I still cannot believe.
One day, I asked you why you knew me at the beginning. You said that when I first saw you, I wanted to protect you. I raised my mouth and smiled proudly.
When gardenias bloom again, you sing under the tree with gentle and sad voice. For the first time in your eyes, I saw something other than happiness. I know, your song is for a girl, thats not me.
Gardenias were unbridled and defeated behind me. You didn see the dim look in my eyes.
The seasons are dry and the flowers bloom in spring.
You are still singing affectionate songs, and I am still the wrong listener.
We jointly deduce a story that is not a story.
When the last gardenia withered that year, you suddenly asked me what you would do if I left. I said, I will wait for you to come back.
You smiled, the smile was full of heavy mist.
You put your hand>
I saw the determination in your eyes.
I know, everything has been irreparable.
Soon after, you left. With your sadness, I went to the place in my dream, the world I will never reach.
At the airport, your white shirt still looks good. The black backpack is hung>
You smiled again, a sunny smile. Eyes, too deep to see bottom.
But I can clearly see that there is a reflection of my face, desolate and beautiful.
You said to me with pity and worry, girl, you know, don wait for me. I shook my head desperately, tears trickling down.
You wiped my tears and said, girl, be happy, be happy. This is my last blessing to you, be obedient!
Say that finish, you also don back to go. I heard the sound of my heart being torn apart. The great pain could not be relieved. I cried for a long time and shed tears from now>
You just disappeared from my world, you made all my beautiful dreams break like glass. I am crazy about your news, but no>
You came to me in summer and left in summer. Just like the wind, it passed and disappeared.
But I can go back to the origin.
I don remember how many times gardenias opened after you left. I don know which>
And the girl waiting for her lover to return under the tree.
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很多人可能看到了，“金句王”张文宏前几天又上了热搜。
这一次，是因为和他的亲哥哥“同台互怼”。
5月2日，张文宏的老家浙江瑞安，举办了一场“百名博士家乡行”活动。
张文宏去参加了。
这是意料之中的。
大家没想到的是，一同去的还有张文宏的亲哥张文宇。
原来哥哥也是超级精英— —浙江财经大学人工智能研究院院长，博士生导师。
一门两博士，都优秀又幽默。
兄弟俩同场互怼的视频，让人们津津乐道。
和张文宏医生一样，哥哥张文宇的这张嘴，同样口才了得、金句频出。
一上台，他就称亲弟弟为“张文宏学弟”，一本正经地开起了玩笑：
“今天，我也见到了我想见，但不希望在公众场合见到的人，那就是张文宏学弟。”“因为张文宏的频繁出现，表示这个世界还不是太美好，我们还得加强疫情防控。”“不要鼓掌，你一鼓掌，我就分不清，是鼓给他的，还是鼓给我的。”“谢谢，这肯定是给我的，刚才那个掌声少的是给他的。”
这张口就来的段子，引得台下笑声和掌声不断。
而遭到亲哥哥的当面调侃，张文宏也绝不会认输。
在上台发言时，他第一时间进行了反击，笑称哥哥为“张文宇同学”：
“张文宇同学，超时特别厉害。”“他刚才关于数字化建设的理念，我也是第一次听到，一听就觉得靠谱，这完全颠覆了以前我对他的认知。”
看来这幽默感，是家族性的了。
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同样家族性的，还有学霸属性。
张文宏不用多说了，家喻户晓的抗疫专家，海归博士后，上海市新冠肺炎医疗救治专家组组长。
而53岁的哥哥张文宇，仅比张文宏大1岁。
1989年毕业于浙江大学，之后又拿到了新加坡南洋理工大学博士学位，研究人工智能、智能制造等，也是业界大牛。
张文宏演讲时，凡尔赛式地调侃了哥哥：
“他从浙大毕业以后，回到瑞安混不下去了，就到新加坡打工。”“他在打工的过程当中，居然在南洋理工大学完成了PhD的培训，五年的学制三年完成。”“在那里工作了几年，又回到了浙江，是浙江大学把他挖过去做计算机学院的院长，做了几年后，现在是浙江财经大学人工智能学院的院长。”
看看人家的情商。
又是“打工”，又是“混不下去”的，看似调侃、嘲讽，实则句句都在夸哥哥。
如此优秀的兄弟俩，让围观群众越看越羡慕，纷纷表示：“这家庭也太厉害了”“我要是他们麻麻，做梦都要笑醒了”。
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那么，问题来了：培养出这对精英兄弟的父母是什么样的人？
不出所料，他们的父母，也是知识分子。
父亲也是浙江大学毕业，后来做了工程师。
母亲是小学教师。
他们的家庭教育应该非常不错。
哥哥张文宇有一句话可以作为依据：我觉得自己只是照着好父母和好老师的样子长大而已。
言外之意，他们的样子，就是父母的样子。
这也很符合逻辑。
那些优秀的“别人家的孩子”，背后很可能站着优秀的父母。
换句话说，是先有“别人家”，然后才有“别人家的孩子”。
那么，“别人家”的优秀，到底优秀在哪里呢？
根本上就是两件事：基因，家风。
基因咱控制不了，不谈了。
我今天想借着张家兄弟，好好讲一讲家风。
好的家风什么样？
或者说，什么样的家庭，能培养出张文宏兄弟这么优秀的孩子？
我觉得大体有六点：
好家风之一，重视教育。
张文宏说，他小时候，父母会花很多时间陪他和哥哥学习，告诉他们“不读书就没有前途”。
所以，张文宏从小就把读书作为唯一的出路，他知道如果读书不好，就只能留在小地方，接父亲的班进工厂。
最可贵的是，张家父母给兄弟俩营造了很好的学习氛围，他们没有逼孩子苦读，而是很注重培养孩子的学习兴趣。
兄弟俩小时候，无聊时的消遣，竟然是给自己出数学题做一做来解闷。
现在八成是不会有这样的小朋友了。
一方面是如今的娱乐诱惑太多。
另一方面，孩子也被过早地死死按在书桌前，很难再从学习中感受到快乐。
1979年，哥哥张文宇考上了初中。
父亲省吃俭用攒了两个月的工资，给他买了一台录音机，鼓励他一定要学好英语。
——那个温饱都困难的年代，舍得花巨款扶持孩子学习，可见这个家庭多么重视教育。
中国人自古就讲“耕读传家，读书继世”。
孩子受的教育越多、多深，有出息的可能性就越大。
这一点，千百年从没变过，今天尤其如此。
好家风之二，和睦。
张文宏和哥哥互怼，透露出的是兄弟俩的亲密、和睦。
你知道，只有特别铁的哥们儿，才敢互相嘲讽，拿对方找乐。
生疏的、敌对的兄弟，是不可能有这种状态的。
所以看得出，张家一定很和睦。
这对一个家庭来说，真的太重要了。
所谓“家和万事兴”，家庭和睦，不仅会有助于整个家庭的财富、健康、幸福感，更有利于孩子的健康发展。
父母经常吵架，孩子就可能懦弱、胆小怕事。
母亲经常以泪洗面，孩子就会自卑、压抑。
家里冷冰冰，孩子就冷漠，不爱与人亲近。
而如果一个家庭，总是和谐亲密，充满爱和欢笑，孩子就更容易有好性格、高情商，善良并自信。
这样的孩子，更可能被他人喜欢，被社会接纳，也就更可能有出息。
张文宏十几岁的时候，有次得了竞赛一等奖，要去江西领奖。
那是他第一次走出瑞安。
在领奖现场，他遇到很多来自上海、杭州名校的获奖学生。
这个小地方的土孩子，没有一点怯懦，他很快跟这些学生打成一片，成为无话不谈的哥们儿。
这种性格和情商，一定和家庭培养有关。
你别以为只要读书多，就会有出息。
好性格和高情商，也是必不可少的因素。
你看中国有20万个博士后，大家的知识和智商都是顶级，为啥张文宏“独得恩宠”？
性格和情商呗。
好家风之三，勤奋上进。
张家爸爸，是那个年代的大学生，想必付出了极大的努力。
张文宏兄弟身上，也都有父亲的影子，读书读到了最高点。
可见也是非常勤奋，有上进心。
千万别以为“读书好”依靠的只是高智商。
你看世间有多少聪明绝顶的懒汉，一生一无所成，靠耍小聪明度日。
这个世界，聪明人太多了，你想出人头地，再聪明也要有脚踏实地的努力。
好家风之四，乐观，包容。
我们最喜欢张文宏的地方，就是他讲话特别有趣。
别的专家讲隔离，都是说“请务必居家隔离，非必要不外出”。
同样的话，张文宏说出来就是：你在家里不是隔离，是在战斗啊！你觉得很闷，病毒也给你闷死啦。
复工后，专家建议同事之间少交流，张文宏就说：如果开会，谁跟你关系最差，你就跟他坐一起。
有记者问怎么治疗新冠，他说：我跟你讲你一定听不懂的，我讲的每一个汉字你都能听明白，但不会知道是什么意思……
这种脱口而出的段子太多了：
你不是发烧，就是最近有点不顺。岁月这么静好，就一定有人在负重前行。谁在负重前行？就是我这样的人。而这一次，张文宏哥哥登场，短短几句话，就露出了“硬核段子手”的潜质。
兄弟俩都如此幽默、灵气四溢，可见他们的家庭氛围是轻松、乐观、包容的。
死气沉沉或者规矩重重的家庭，不太可能养出这样的孩子。
好家风之五，不贪慕虚荣，不热衷名利。
网上关于张文宏个人的故事，其实非常少。
因为他不爱讲。
之前有媒体采访他，想挖一些八卦，他的回答是：
采访我个人就没有意思了，我就一个乡下人，跑到上海，读完书留下来工作而已。但你说到传染病，我觉得这个可以好好聊聊……
他之前也说：
当大幕落下（指疫情结束），我自然会非常安静地离开。到时你在我们医院里，看见绕着墙根走路的那个人，就是我。
他对名利保持着难得的人间清醒：
等过了这个事情，大家该看电视看电视，该追剧追剧，该看跑男看跑男，谁要看我啊？
他也完全没有偶像包袱。
有人问他：钟南山院士特别注重锻炼，80多岁还浑身肌肉，你爱不爱运动？
他首先表示，自己欣赏爱运动的院士，然后老老实实地说，他不行：
我不能甩一身肌肉给你们，我根本没有。我办过几次健身卡，有次一年只去了两三次。我极度疲劳时，就躺在沙发上看非常无聊、不需要动脑的电视剧，比如《芈月传》。
——众人想把他塑造成完美的英雄，但他不想上神坛。
他还是要舒舒服服地做真真实实的自己。
不贪慕虚荣，也不热衷名利。
张文宏的哥哥，看起来也是这样的人。
弟弟红了这么久，从没见他蹭一点流量。
此前，网上没有任何他和张文宏关系的资料。
若不是这次家乡相邀，我们圈外人很难知道张文宏还有一个精英哥哥。
而这，很可能也正是兄弟俩有今天成就的原因之一。
他们不热衷名利，所以能把精力用在更有价值的学术研究上，一个研究医学，一个研究人工智能，都是实实在在造福人类的事。
反观那些一心想求盛名、赚大钱的家庭，孩子从小就奔着浅薄的名利去了，又怎么可能修炼出真本事，取得真正的大成就？
好家风之六，注重培养孩子的志向。
张文宏有一件事，我觉得非常赞：他从小就知道自己要干嘛。
他自己说：
我的成绩一直非常好，可以保送重点大学。但我都放弃了，因为我想学医。医学融文科和理科于一体，又能治病救人，比较高尚，符合我的想法。我的第一志愿是上海医大，在全国医学院里是数一数二的。其他志愿好像都填了医学类，万一上医大考不上，别的医学院应该没问题。
那么小就明确了一生的志向，这是很不容易的。
想必也有父母的正确引导。
我们看看现在的孩子，有几个是在高中时就非常明确自己想干嘛的？
又有几个孩子的志向是“治病救人、比较高尚”的？
反正我所见到的，大部分都在拼命追求分数，但不太清楚自己的职业目标。
有些孩子报志愿的时候，考虑的只是什么专业好找工作、能赚大钱，而不是自己的热爱和志向是什么。
这样的孩子，就可能在人生最关键的选择上，完全偏离方向，走上根本不适合自己的路。
之后要么半路转行，白白浪费很多时光。
要么在不合适的路上勉强坚持，一辈子别别扭扭，磕磕绊绊。
都不是好结果。
所以，好的家庭一定要在孩子的成长过程中，让他们尽量多地去接触社会，探索世界，了解自己，在高中毕业之前，形成基本的三观，大体知道世界什么样，自己什么样。
在起航之前，让孩子找到自己的梦想和人生方向，他们会少走很多冤枉路，少受很多额外苦。
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都说好的教育，就是要拼爹。
准确说，是拼家庭，拼家风。
家风对孩子的影响，至深至远。
而且它影响的不是一个孩子，而是整个家族的一代又一代孩子。
每一个人身上，都有家庭的精神足迹。
好家风，可以托举起一个天资平常的孩子。
坏家风，也可以毁掉一个天赋异禀的孩子。
我们为人父母者，无法决定给孩子什么样的基因，但可以努力给他好的家庭影响，让他成为有格局，有理想，有温度，有学识的人。
让他人格完善，受人尊敬，活出精彩的一生。
